The Perfect Mind-set

the perfect mind-set

A lot of us in the game use personal visualisation techniques and mind-sets that help us bridge that gap on the approach. What I have learnt is that visualisation is an extremely powerful tool when it comes to mental strength. If you visualise yourself succeeding then you are most likely to succeed. 

These visualisation techniques can be extremely effective if used properly and can help a person develop some pretty incredible mind sets.

Personally I like to stay away from the mind sets that are a bit to unrealistic such as

-Believing that you are 10 meters tall and made of gold or diamond

-Believing that every single girl in the club wants to sleep with you

-Believing that you can seduce and close any girl you want

These mind-sets, although they make you feel empowered in the moment, don’t last long. As we are midway through our opener we tend to forget that we are 10 meters tall and made of gold so these mind sets aren’t very solid. The reason for is because they can never be a reality and by you trying to believe it is incongruent

For a mind-set to have full effect it needs to be fuelled by something realistic and achievable. This allows for a level of self-congruency. Some examples for congruent mind-sets would be:

-“I am a pickup artist and therefore have an advantage over every man in this club”

-“I have the ability to approach and speak to any women here and nobody can stop me”

-Thinking about your past success with women and how every single success started with an opener

-Thinking about how good and empowered you are going to feel after opening your next set

All these mind-sets are realistic and congruence with your capabilities. You don’t have to pretend to be awesome because you can actually BE awesome. This is what makes these mind-sets so powerful. It is the fact they are based on real truths, not make belief day dreams. When I started using congruent mind-sets I actually started seeing myself achieve them. The first one I ever used was the “I have the ability to approach any woman I want and nobody can stop me.” mind set. When I first started out I emotionally could NOT live up to this mind-set, however as my game got better I realise that the mind-set that was once an impossibility had now become my reality.

What I also noticed was that these mind-sets did not take my AA away immediately. It took time to for me to gain un breakable confidence. So when you see PUA adverts that promise alpha male mind-sets in a single night, know that its bullshit. There is no magical frame of mind that changes a person overnight. Getting rid of AA an BUILDING UP confidence takes times, not an overnight epiphany

For me personally, the use of congruent mind-sets really helped me push through my AA days.