How to kiss a girl.

For some, bridging the infinite gap that separates you from kissing the amazing girl that you are with can be an extremely difficult thing to do. There you are sitting alone with her, a shy smile spreads across her face, she licks her lips, you get a bit closer and… nothing happens. You don’t kiss her, shit gets a bit awkward and you end up going home hating yourself wondering what it would be like if you did kiss and hating yourself for not doing it.  Yes this is a common event for many guys out there. 

Kissing a girl can indeed be quite the challenge but from personal experience, after making out with over one hundred girls in my life time, kissing a girl has become easier for me than approaching her.  The only way you get rid of that fear is to just do it and hope for the best. 

But sometimes that isn’t enough. Maybe you do have the balls to pull the trigger and you have tried it time and time again but you just keep getting shut down. The problem here is either you have not built up enough attraction with her yet or you are going in for the kiss at the wrong time.

How to kiss a girl

The first step to kissing a girl properly is to know when she wants to kiss you. Once you have built up enough attraction with the girl and you two are having your own personal conversation, you start the process of initiating a kiss.

Step 1- Start triangular gazing.

Triangular gazing is a technique whereby you look at her left eye, then her right eye, then her lips. Then back to her left, back to her right, then to her lips again. This is a way for to tell her that you want to kiss her without the risk of rejection.

Step 2- Lick your lips

While doing triangular gazing, every time you look at her lips lick yours slightly. By now there should be a good chemistry in the air and she should be giving you all the same signs you have been giving her.

Step 3- Reading the signs

When girls want to make out, they give off a certain series of body language signs:

-Licking her lips

-Staring at your lips

-Constantly putting on lip balm

-Playing with her necklace

-Biting her lips

-Pursing her lips

-If her face is less than 30 centimeters away from yours

All these are definite signs that she wants to kiss you.

Step 4- Saying the routine

Once you have confirmation that she wants to kiss you, you can now initiate a routine. Something that will bring the fact that you want to kiss each other to the surface. Here are some routines:

Routine 1 (credited to Mystery)

YOU “Would you like to kiss me?”

GIRL “No”

YOU “Well I never said you could. It just looked like you had something on your mind”

OR

GIRL "Yes”

Say nothing and just kiss her

OR

GIRL “Maybe/I don’t know”

YOU “Well let’s find out” and kiss her.

Routine 2

YOU “I don’t know what it is, but im under the impression that you want to make out with me.”

If she responds positively by smiling or getting a little bit shy, make strong eye contact, hold her chin, and kiss her.

If she responds negatively just say “Oh. I was wondering why you kept licking your lips and looking at mine.”

Routine 3

YOU “I have to ask. What’s stopping you from kissing me?”

If she responds positively but says “I don’t want to kiss you.”

YOU “You’re a bad liar.”

If she smiles or laughs, kiss her.

OR

YOU “I have to ask. What’s stopping you from kissing me?”

If she responds negatively and says “I don’t want to kiss you.”

You look her deep in the eye, start leaning close as if you're about to kiss her then say slowly “I know. I’m just fucking with you.” then smile as if the jokes on her.

OR

YOU “I have to ask. What’s stopping you from kissing me?”

If she responds positively but says nothing or something like “I don’t know.”, kiss her.

Routine 4 (credited to Sinn)

YOU “You know I’m probably going to try kiss you by the end of the night.”

If she responds positively, kiss her.

If she responds negatively, say with a smile as if you aren’t even affected “Oh well. It was worth a try.” and act as if nothing even happened.

And that is how to kiss a girl. Remember, not too much tongue at first.

One more tip I would like to share with you is never to be affected if you get rejected. The girl already feels bad for rejecting you as she knows it will most likely cause an awkward moment. By you acting as if you couldn’t give two shits whether she rejected you or not, she will see that as incredibly attractive.