Why it is important to be an effective communicator

The Social Dynamic

Many people take the concept of socializing for granted. However there are many people in this world that have such bad social anxiety that they tend to cut themselves off from other people completely. This affects two major things in a person’s life. One this their own psychological development and self esteem and the other is their ability to communicate with other people effectively.

Whether we like it or not, much or our self worth is created by the validation we get from other people. When we enter a social situation and realize that we are well liked by other people, we immediately feel good about ourselves because we know that other people enjoy us and therefore value us. Because of this, our level of self worth rises therefore our level of self-confidence rises making us feel good about ourselves. However if we enter a social situation and miss communicate ourselves to other people, they will dislike us. Once we realize that people don’t want to be around us we feel inadequate and bad about ourselves. Because other people do not give us value we ourselves do not give us value either and because of this our sense of self worth is lowered therefore our sense of self-confidence is lowered making us feel horrible.

This is where the second affected aspect comes in. By not effectively communicating ourselves across positively, people may get the wrong impression of us and reject us. While some people are able to socialize with ease due to the fact that they were socially calibrated since a young age, others may have been unable to grow those communication skills and now struggle socialize with other people.

The simple mistake of miss communication can result in other people having a false impression of you, which in turn may negatively affect the person psychologically.