Mastering Push Pull

Many PUAs have heard of the term push pull. For those of you who haven’t, push pull is a method that incorporates the basic generator of attraction. For you MM fans, you would know this as cat-string method.

Push pull is by far one of the most effective attraction building techniques there is. It is built around the concept that if you show interest in the girl, then straight after you cut off that interest, it will generate attraction. Basically push pull is disqualifying and qualifying the girl at the right time.

Let’s look at some analogies. To understand push pull, it’s easiest to imagine that women are like fires. To keep the attraction burning, we need to give it fuel (attention/qualification). This represents pull. But if we give to much fuel, the attraction will suffocate and die or get out of control. In order to keep the fire going steady and under control, we need to limit the amount of fuel it gets (ignorance/disqualification). However, if we neglect to give the fire any fuel, it will eventually burn out and die.

This same principal applies to women. if you give a girl to much attention and qualification you will come across as needy and she will either leave o try take advantage of it. But if you limit you’re the amount of attention you give to her the attraction (fire) will burn longer. When you see that she is losing interest due to lack of attention, you give her some attention (fuel) in order to keep her going. 

This is a technique that has been used by almost every PUA.

Why does it work?

Now that you understand what push pull is exactly, let us explore how it psychologically effects women. By using push pull, you put the girl through a series of conflicting thoughts and emotions. “At first he seems interested, then all of a sudden he shows that he isn’t interested. I can’t figure this guy out.” this is what most women might think should she experience the push pull effect. By arousing conflicting thoughts and emotions, this puts the women in a state of slight confusion and makes you come across as unpredictable and mysterious, two characteristics which most women are naturally attracted too. Push pull works on many attraction switches. By pushing her you are showing that you are unlike any other guy and for the first time she has met a guy who actually isn’t interested in her. Once she has realised this she might think that she is doing something wrong and form there on in she will work for your attention. This thought in her head is the seed of attraction. She works for your attention by asking questions, trying to talk to you exclusively and showing IOIs. By DQing her even further, she will try even harder and when you do eventually qualify her, she will be ecstatic.

How to apply push pull effectively.

When it comes to push pull, it is essential that you know how to apply it properly and we do this by changing our level of energy and tonality.

Your level of energy is basically your level of enthusiasm. If you are very active and enthusiastic then your LOE will be very high. If you are more serious and relaxed your LOE is low. So if we were at a house party and everyone was drunk and shouting and dancing, the LOE would be extremely high. But if you were at garden party or a braai the LOE would be low. In order to be an effective calibration PUA, you need to be able to identify the LOE of your sets in order to effectively communicate with them or get on their level.

Tonality enables you to do this. Your tone is the way in which you express your LOE through your body language and voice. High tonality would include more active body language and a louder more enthusiastic voice along with more expressiveness. Low tonality would express slower body movement, lower volume of voice and a slower speed of speech.

Now that you understand what tonality and level of energy (LOE) is, you can learn how to incorporate it with push pull.

Push should have a higher LOE and tonality than pull. By DQing and teasing with a fun high tonality and enthusiastic LOE, your push will be a lot more effective. The same concept applies to pull. By lowering your tonality and LOE, it’s easier and effective to qualify her and build report with her. This maximises the effect of your pull.

What I have noticed about push pull is that both have very different natures. The nature of push is more high energy and happens in short bursts of DQs, teases and negs done with a playful attitude. Pull on the other hand is more constant and works most effectively in report building through stories told with a more chilled out tonality and LOE.

By mastering your ability to control your tonality and LOE, you will be able to effectively use the method of push pull to its maximum potential. Mastering push pull will give you a massive edge in your game as it touches one of the major key points in seduction, attraction. By mastering push pull, one can master attraction.