How do I sarge my girlfriend..........??

I’ve been getting a lot of novice PUAs asking me questions on gaming tips for girls they are already dating. A close friend, and very accomplished PUA, of mine recently asked me for advice on how to make his relationship with this girl exciting. After showing me photos of her (she is a 9) I could see that she was definitely the party type of girl with a very outgoing personality. When he asked me for advice on how to make things more exciting to prevent her from leaving, I simply told him to be himself. Now im sure many PUAs would shoot me dead for giving such armature advice but what most novice, and even some advanced, PUAs don’t understand is that there is no material nor is there even such a thing as ‘relationship game’.

If you know Mysteries M3 model, it states that there are 3 stages to successfully courting with a woman: Attraction, comfort and seduction. (no I am not a Mystery maniac, but the M3 model is great contribution to the study on pickup as reference material)    Anyway. When we look at the M3 model, or any model in the game for that fact, we notice one thing: all the models end with seduction. Because of this, many people tend to think it is the last stage of any relationship with a girl. This is entirely UNTRUE.

As PUAs, we learnt the art of seduction: meet, attract, seduce, close. And that’s it. That’s all we are taught. But where does it go from there??? I have learnt the art of getting women into bed using my smooth routines and such, but how do I keep her here?? Basically, the big question is:

“Now that I have seduced this girl and she is attracted to me, how do I keep her as my girlfriend?”

Most PUAs will answer, “Well if you’ve built up enough attraction with her and you know she wants a relationship you can just ask her flat out.” Which is true, BUT. That doesn’t answer the question. Yes as PUAs we are taught how to GET a girlfriend, but we are not taught how to KEEP a girlfriend.

When it comes to getting laid, we are gods. But when it comes to having a relationship, we only know the first three steps: attraction, comfort and seduction.

in a relationship[ the are still further stages one must go through such as affection, devotion and support. And the game teaches us none of these.

Basically what is happening, is that the game is teaching us how to become brilliant seducers, but it has never taught us how to be brilliant boyfriends and husbands. This I find rather disturbing as it has led to some grave consequences.

I find that a lot of PUAs (especially those between the years of 1 to 3 years f experience) are finding it extremely difficult to maintain committed relationships and I believe that one of the reasons for this may be because guys who know the game ONLY know how to seduce and because of that they are too afraid to step out of there comfort zones into unknown territories such as committed relationships.

Understanding how routines and calibration affect our relationships

When I come across a guy who is struggling with this particular problem it tells me several things about him: he is not well social calibrated, he is very reliant on routines, and he struggles to understand concepts of game. The reason why certain guys tend to have the need to sarge their girlfriends is because they have not grasped the purpose of why routines exist. Newbeis are taught routines simply because they act as examples. Behind every routine there is a concept and more than often, those concepts are ignored. We need to understand HOW and WHY our routines work. By doing this we are able to become more knowledgeable of our social methods and therefor become more socially calibrated. By learning how to adapt to social situations that we aren’t prepared for, we start learning how to identify, evaluate and solve social problems by ourselves so when we do enter into a committed relationship, there will be no need for routines.

The game does not hinder our ability to commit as many people would think. If taught and understood in the correct way, the game can, if anything, helps us to solve social miscommunications in our committed relationship.

I strongly advise any guys that are new, or thinking of getting into the game to make sure that you develop both as an effective seducer as well as an effective boyfriend and to make sure that you understand and put into practice the concept of social calibration to ensure that you will have no need for canned material should you come across a social problem you have no answer to.




There are books however, dedicated to helping those in need with relationship issues. The best book i recomend for such problems would be Men are from Mars and Women ar from Venus by John Grey.